Friday, December 28, 2007
Lately many people have been asking me about my wife, Ky's health condition. In fact last night (in the middle of the night when I was sleeping), a close friend of us, Dr. Nina called from Mekah asking about Ky's condition.
I felt heavy heart to tell you about Ky's condition. I usually want to write about good things happening in my life. But somehow or rather, this is not going to the usual goodies-goodies events but life threatening event.
Ky's condition have been going from bad to worst. As some of you might have known, she had breast cancer since May 2003. You figure out how long she had bee suffering from it. The notorious cancer cell had spread to her liver now. I'm not a doctor but from what I heard, once the liver malfunction, the rest of your body system will go haywire. That's what had happened to her.
Pass years had seen red spots all over her body. This will itchy effect on her body. It usually happened at night. I was told that its because of the skin reacted to the toxic in the body - when the liver can't process the body toxic.
But this is not the case now. Due to the deterioration and malfunction of liver, it now cannot process the body fluid. Thus there's water retention in the body. This resulted her legs and sometimes arm became swollen. Now her stomach became as big as 6 months pregnant. She had done "tapping" 5 times now and each time about 2 litres of fluid drained out in less than half-hour from her body.
With enlarged liver and water retention, it compressed other internal organs including her lungs - which means that she had difficulties in breathing. Not only that her body will experience further pain.
With the compressed stomach, she hardly can eat without much appetite. Even taking 2 spoonful of porridge or rice is a big challenge for her. Her weight now fell below the normal weight - I guess by 25%.
We had done our part. Beside going to see Oncologist (Cancer Specialist), she also went to see other alternatives medical practitioner which include Islamic medicine. She even went to see Datuk Harun Din (twice already) and she was given some "water" and some other herbals things to use.
Apart from that she had seen Dr. Anida also using Islamic way of treatments. Recently she had to soak in water filled "mountain salt' (garam bukit). But until recently when she can't sit in the tub, she can only rub the water onto her body.
Last night she told me that she felt that her body is weakening. Had for me to say but she felt that her time is coming nearer. Her concentration in prayers was also affected. She don't want to go into hospital again but want to rest at home. She told this to me when we were alone in the room - talking heart to heart.
So what do I feel about the whole thing. To tell you the truth, I had mixed feeling about this. I know one day her time will come especially when her condition is not getting better. I had seen her ups and downs when she suffer this for nearly 5 years. To me Allah had been kind enough to let us spent nearly 5 more years with her.
Meanwhile I told my children to spend every other minutes with her while they can. I know it hard to express in writing but as they say "Berat matamemandang, berat lagi bahu memikul" which is really true. I'm glad that siblings from both sides of family and close caring friends gave their utmost support to us. Now we rest this the utmost gracious and merciful Allah for him giving us strength for Ky and us to endure and get over his obstacles - for us to realise how small we are.
I will write from time to time if time permit to update you faithfull readers on Ky's condition.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
So early in the morning I replied her sms giving my heartfelt condolence as she is grieving for her loss of a love one.
I didn't know how much Petulia & Peter love the dog. To me it was just another pet that I used to see once awhile when I was at their home. But it was more than that. She considered Bucky, as her baby daughter. Both Peter & Petulia didn't have any baby since they got married 10 years ago. And having Bucky would probably been a blessing to them. They gave Bucky love as if Bucky is their child.
And now with Bucky gone, Petulia was petrified and felt miserable. Probably we don't understand how she felt with this loss.
Petulia wrote an email to people close to her including us telling us how much she "felt loss" of Bucky. This what she wrote.
"Whether you believe it or not…I believe that she was so close to us that she can sense everything that happens around her…she was closest to Peter and I as she saw us grow in our relationship, get married and went thru everything with us for ten years!
We truly miss her so much…we feel like our hearts are broken and we lost our child."I felt bad about it too. I didn't know how much she felt the loss until I read her email. For someone who were not blessed with a child, probably were blessed to have the love from a dog like Bucky.
To Petulia, my heartfelt condolence. I know we don't feel the loss as much as she felt, but we do know how it felt to loose someone that we loved so much.
Friday, November 30, 2007
The word is MALAS nak blogging. Or probably I'm dry of ideas what to write. So if you guys have any ideas for me what to write, just post in the comments box ok.
Monday, November 19, 2007
This is not our 1989 wedding picture but it was taken a couple of months back at a nephew's wedding. But we still look good as a couple don't we ????
She is the more dominant and want to get what she wants immediately. Me on the other hand is the more peaceful and don't like confrontation. She is happy-go-lucky but I'm more detailed person. She doesn't plan what she wants to do and can change any plan as when she wants it. Me on the other hand will plans things for weeks and hate to change any plan. She is Choleric Sanguine and I am Phlegmatic Melancholy. If you can't understand me please read this book called the "Personality Plus" by Florence Littauer. This help us to understand more of each other and probably helps us to reduce confrontation and probably had save our marriage!.
This book can save your marriage!!!!
So at our 18th Wedding anniversary, we didn't have a fancy dinner but just a small quiet dinner at Kenny Rogers restaurant with the kids. But more important is that I still remember our 18th wedding anniversary as I know some of you guys don't. As an advice to all married guys reading my blog : You can forget anything and everything but never forget your wife's birthday and your wedding anniversary. It can be disastrous. I really mean it man!
Ok before I buzz off - just some jokes that I read for your some laugh.
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once .
Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.
The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.
"Despite the old saying, "Don't take your troubles to bed"' many still sleep with their wives!
Thursday, November 15, 2007
He is taking 12 papers altogether. 3 of which were Arabic Communication and other 2 I'm not sure - but I know it's related to Arabic papers. One of the hardest and most difficult for him was Additional Maths. He failed is his previous trial exam whilst he scored 7 A in the rest of the subject. But he passed in his other modern maths. Not bad I thought. What can I say? I asked him to try harder so that he can get at least a credit for his Add Maths. I can't advise him much on Add Maths cos I flunked my Add Maths as well when I did my MCE zillion years ago hehehee.
But of course as a father, you always want you kids to have the best result right? But to think of it, even if I didn't an A for Add Maths, I didn't even apply all the tangent, sign, cosign, and mind boggling formulas God knows what today. And even without Add Maths, I still obtained my Masters Degree in Business Administration. Dapat CGPA 3.95 lagikkkk!! hehehe.. So what if you failed Add Maths right? It's just a subject. I wonder if Bill Gates ever pass his maths classes??? Anyway.......
By the way, Along is in Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Agama Simpang Lima, Sungai Besar. A 2 hours drive from our home. So last Saturday, Ky, my sis-in-law Hindun and I went to see Along. It's a matter of giving him the last encouragement before his exam. Bought him some food and took him to town the get him whatever stationery he need for his exam. Ky also brought a bottle of "air Yassin" for him as well. Mudah-mudahan dengan berkat doa ibu, insyaallah orang kata terang hati anak.
Being the eldest son, I always advised to show good example to his siblings. Of course I prayed that he will do his best in his SPM and get the best result. Hopefully he will get entrance to a good college or university next year.
To Along.. Ayah & Mak prayed for you ok. And you should
do nothing but the best.
When I came home yesterday, Mimi gladly shouted that tomorrow is Acik result day. Acik will get the result. "Acik tengah takut tu Ayah!". Acik kept silently watching the TV lying on the big cushion infront of the TV. I quickly add "Ok ayah pergi sekali tengok result awak boleh tak". Takyah... result keluar lambat .. mungkin petang kot... ayah kena pergi kerja..." he said helplessly - trying to prevent me from going.
"Mak nak pergi jugak" said his mom. Acik kept silent. I added, "Acik sms kat ayah kalau dapat 5 A." The kepoci Mimi added again, " Kalau dapat 4A 1B camne?" I answered, " Kalau dapat semua B pun kena sms kat ayah, ok!"
Well for me, although I'm concern what result will come out for Acik, but I trust that he had done his best in his UPSR. If he gets 5 A - alhamdulilah. Even if he gets all B - also alhamdulilah. I can't pressure him anymore as I had done that before his UPSR. Who don't want his kid to get all A right? But what if he didn't get A at all. Do I disown him? Of course not. He is still my little cute youngest boy. Maybe a nice long lecture will help then hehehee..
I can't blame Acik for maybe some little mistake he has made. By the way, he is still not even reach 12 years old. He birthday is on 12. 12. 2007. So practically he is still an 11 years old boy. Still a small boy. He is as tall as Mimi who is 10 years old. They look like twin when they walk side by side because they are of same height and similar look.
Anyway will see what his result today.....
Friday, November 9, 2007
In fact Wan Faridah called me a week after the show. Eh, bila show tu ha? I said, "Oi dah habis lah. Dia orang buat time raya itu hari lah" Alamak ..... silap haribulan.
Anyway let me just update you on it. The show was held at time people were busy preparing for the Hari Raya. The show was 2 days before Hari Raya and 2 days after that.
We went at the opening night at The Actors Studio, Bangsar Shopping Complex (BSC). We bundled up my kids and left early to BSC so that we can break our fast there first before we went for the show. The boys break fast with me and Mimi followed her mom for prayers first, eat something and then rush to the backstage.
All Ky's sister came in support for her debut on stage. They came in one car. Our friends Peter, Petulia and Cecilia came about 7.45pm and later joined by Simon & Diana, Ming and Ayu.
Ky's picture in her no.1 army uniform.
Somehow it was frame at the entrance
of the Actor Studio in Bangsar.
The actresses in the theater are
cancer survivor, surviving cancer
and cancer care takers.
Another framed pics of Life Sdn Bhd' s actresses.
All Ky's sisters came to give support to her.
Petulia's aunt Cecilia also came.
Ky with Diana after the show.
The show started exactly at 8.00 pm. Datuk Faridah Merican, who is a renowned the theater activist now a director, thanks the audience for supporting the show and briefed the background of the actresses. Unfortunately she told us not to take any photograph with flashes on. Mine is with flash - so I dare not take any photographs then. Too bad you can't see these people on stage relating their life history about cancer. Too bad you can't see my little girl, Mimi with her mom on stage as well.
Diana, Ayu, Ming & Petulia came to
support the show.
If you were to ask me how should describe the show, I would say that it was amazingly hilarious at time, tense when sadness comes in and relieved when it was more relax. It was a mixed feeling when you heard each cancer survivor and surviving patient relating their life history. Overall I supposed you'll hear true life story from they themself. It's not an act but real life experience.
Simon having a chat with Ky after the show.
Simon also came to see the show with Diana. He supported this charity drives and in fact asked Ky to send him an email about the show so that he can put it up in his yahoo group.
With Jit Murad who came to see the show.
The show was over about 10.00 pm. The audiences and actors gathered at the entrance - congratulating the performers for a job well done.
Jit Murad - a well known theater actor, also came to see the show. Surprisingly an experience actor gave a good comment on actors who have no experience at all. He met Ky. Also commented Mimi's brave enough to be on stage with her mommy. I didn't realised it was "the" Jit Murad until I recognised it was really him. He was talking to Ky and I was beside her at that time. Quite a pleasant guy. He loves the show and was surprise to know that all the actors were inexperience actors.
I personally went up to Datuk Faridah Merican congratulating her for effort in putting up the show together. Such a pleasant lady who directed the whole show. I also met the jovial Joe Hafsham (Faridah's husband) earlier who was also part of the people who made the show a reality.
My family with Datuk Faridah Merican
- the Director of Life Sdn Bhd 4. See Mimi with
her Black & Pink t-shirt. The pink shape was supposed
to depict a breast. It's a breast cancer month after all.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
Anyway let me start with the Hari Raya do that I have planned on the 27 October 2007. Actually I don't have plan to do a gathering cum open house at my house. Firstly because Bibik is not around as she took a long 2 months leave and celebrate Hari Raya in Surabaya. So who want to cook? Secondly, of late Ky is not too well. Her health is not getting better. Luckily my sister-in-law, Hindun came to help out.
So when many close friends have been asking me whether they could pay a visit to see Ky ( as they have not seen Ky quite sometime), I thought why not I plan a day so that all of them can come at one time. Tak payah nak layan sorang-sorang datang right.
Besides that since Ky enter a new age on 26 November 2007, I thought why not I throw 2 birds with one stone. So I invited them to come on Saturday afternoon for a "surprise birthday party" for Ky in pretext of coming for a small open house.
Well most of my invitees came. Ayu, came with a Secret Recipe's cheese cake while Siti came with a nice chocolate cake. Semua kena sorok dulu because it's supposed to be a surprise birthday right.
Yummy cheese cake (my favourite)
and moist chocolate cake (best nyer!)
Happy 47th Birthday Sayang.
Aizat, Me,Mimi & Ky. Aizuddin is in his school and
Adib went to his friend's open house.
I was very pleased that people who came were close friends and my fellow networkers. People who really care for Ky and we are just goods friends as well.
Peter came first. Right on the dot at 4pm. At that time I was still preparing the rojak buah. Sedap tau. Petulia was in Singapore - busy building her network.
Zahrah & hubby, Yusuf Feeney came. I have not seen Yusuf since he went back to the US and we were surprise when he came.
Zahrah & Yusuf Feeney
Adah and Tengku Fadzil came with Tengku Abidah (Kak Ngah). They were such a good old friends and we had missed each other a lot. Kak Ngah loves the soto and she ate twice. Kata nya untuk lunch and dinner sekali. I told her she can eat as much as she want. After all we hardly meet each other, probably once a year. So makan lah to fill up the one year's quota hahaha... What touched me most is when Kak Ngah said that she always felt at home when she came to my house and that to her, she had treated me like her own family. Well I told her that she is always welcome to my home and we always "tak berkira" kind of person and we enjoy each other companion as friends.
Ayu, Ina & Nado and Faisal came a bit later. Ijah came with Dr. Hali and Siti came later after sesat barat somewhere. But she later managed to arrive a bit later.
Good old and new friends came to celebrate
Ky's surprise birthday.
Zul & daughter Erena came at about 6pm whilst Am & Mai came about 7pm. They were the last to come.
Anyway I guess we had a great time together. My objective were met. I managed to get those who wanted to see Ky had their wish fulfilled. I, on the other hand, had my wish fulfilled too when we had a surprise birthday for Ky. I hope this is not the last birthday party for her.
Smile ladies .. smile..
After Maghrib, we had to go to abang's house in Kelana Jaya for another family gathering.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
This is what we called here "Business Turnaround Program". Unfortunately, the group has to include me in this group. We title the project as "The Promise" and the objective is to streamline "The CBU order to delivery" process.
It is similar to what Malaysia Airlines has done to turn around it's company. We follow suit in pursuant to get a better operation and thus as the end result - a better turnover and has lots of cost saving.
The team comprise of Azman (Production Planning), Yahya & Suffian (Sales Planning - Edar), Rozee (Group Purchasing), Zanita (Homologation & Testing R&D), Anil (Product & Marketing) and of course me (Export Division). This lab is facilitated by Yunus (Transformation Management) and assisted by Liza.
The objective is simple : Forecasting of orders to delivery should not deviate more than 5% and the lessen the holding stock less than 3 months. Well it sounds so simple but the challenges is how to get it done.
Many ideas and input were obtained, some are very ideal solution and some may not be the best way. But whatever it is, the lad will only finish off by Friday hopefully. That mean that we are in the cabin for 2 solid weeks. Berasap otak.
Our team that were chosen, we became close to each other. We were lucky to have teammates that are very supportive and helpful with each other.
So if you didn't see me updating this blog, it means that I don't have the time to do it. Cheers Bro and Sis!
Friday, October 26, 2007
This is a special day for me. I know I have not been writing much since before the Hari Raya. But I told myself taht I have to blog today.
Why this 26 October is so special to me? It's because today is my beloved sayang 47th birthday. You see, as you know she is having breast cancer and until few months back, the cancer cell had spread to her liver. So currently she had not been feeling too good. She don't have the appetite to eat and even if she eats, everything will come out again. The Hospis doctor and nurse did mentioned to her that her liver had enlarged, thus compressing the stomach. As a result she felt that her stomach is full and could take much food.
I pity her suffering. But then again, she had to eat something to fill up her tummy. If not, she'll be getting gastric pain. Taking in pain killer or any other medication that create acidity in stomach, will eventually resulting gastric pain. That was what happen to her before the Ramadan when I had to rush her into the emergency room due to her unbearable gastric pain.
A couple of days before Hari Raya, and Ky wanted to do some cooking. You see, our Bibik had gone back for 2 months Holidays in Indonesia. So as usual, she wanted to prepare Laksa Johor to Hari Raya at my mom's place. With extra work done in the kitchen, she had a swollen right arm. She told me that probably she sprained her arm while cutting the onion. But I personally don't think so. With some consultation with her cancer friends, she found out that it was because of the reaction of the lymph nodes. For about a week, her right arm were swollen like double the size of her left arm. It was also very hot. I mean real hot and not the ordinary warm. The only solution was to cover the whole arm with a ice-cold towel. Eventually after a few days, the swollen subsided. However her appetite still wasn't that good.
On Monday night, I took her together with Acik (who had vomiting and purging due to food poisoning) to a nearby clinic. Whilst Acik's was a minor case, Ky's case was slightly serious.
The doctor that we went to see was about 70 years old Punjabi Doctor. What I like about him was that although he is a bit old but he has full of wisdom and gave fatherly advise. Initially I told him about Ky's cancer and that currently she didn't have the appetite to eat probably due to the enlarged liver.I also told him that she had not been able to eat the last few days. But this experience doctor calmly said that her stomach pain is because she is not eating at all. That also triggers the stomach pain. He said that Ky had to eat anything or if you can eat, eat an elephant for that matter. It doesn't matter what she want to eat but eat! (I remember that word) Eat a little at a time if she can't eat the whole plate. Take vitamins even though with empty stomach rather than not eating anything. He even told Ky to take "air kelapa muda" to replace the loss of sugar and salt in the body. It may sound simple but it make sense to her. So she did what the doctor told her to do.
Alhamdullilah as of yesterday, she had improved her appetite. Thanks to the fatherly advice of Dr. Premjit Singh. Well to me she is now a bit better and can eat a bit more that before.
So today is her birthday. It really meant so much me. At least she now reach her 47th birthday after more than 4 years plus of having breast cancer. Every new day meant something to me and our kids.
I know I couldn't do much to help her with her health, but I always try and will do something to make her life a bit better. Yesterday after work, I rushed to Petaling street to buy 2 dozens of red roses for her birthday. At mid-night when she already went to sleep, I arranged the roses in a crystal vase with a birthday card on it and put it on the dining table. Hopefully she is surprise to see the red roses for her in the morning.
And I am planning for a surprise Birthday party for her this Saturday night with my friends in the business - after all they are coming for Hari Raya anyway.
Happy Birthday Sayang! May Allah showed us the path and let you be fully recovered from whatever circumstances you are facing. Allah is Great and Merciful and I'm very sure that he has something in store for you.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Today, the Hari Raya atmosphere were not the same as previous years. Everybody were excited then, be it Muslim or non-Muslim - especially we usually have a long holiday break. Now it looks bleak as if nothing is happening.
Anyway, this time around we had another long break. The whole plant will closed tomorrow from 11~21 October 2007. Well I need a break anyway.
It is also sad that Ramadan is closing to an end this Friday. A long month of spiritual rituals that only be done during this month will end. I attended the Terawih at the surau nearby whenever I can. I miss them during my 2 weeks confinement after the operation.
Our helper a.k.a. Bibik had gone back for a 2 months holidays in her hometown in Surabaya. She'll only be back in December. So the house chores had to be done on our own. The kids were also asked to do throw away the garbage, take in the dried clothes, make their own bed, etc. It was a luxury when Bibik is around.
We didn't plan much for this Hari Raya. Except celebrating it at my Mom's house and probably visit some of the closest relatives. Cooking??? Hmm.. probably not the troublesome cooking of rendang and ketupat. Maybe some Laksa Johor stuff.
and Baju Raya? Initially Ky don't want to buy any as some new clothes haven't been worn yet. As for baju melayu, the boys had one or two new pairs they haven't worn yet. However, last weekend we went shopping and bought pants for them. Me... hmm.. I'm not too fussy. Still had a shirt or two that had not worn yet. Ky?? I asked her if she wants anything. As usual, she humbly said no. When I was small, all my siblings would get the same colour materia; for Baju Melayu and Baju Kurung. Even the samping is of same colour and material. Shoes were from Bata and that was already considered a high brand then. Those were the days.
Duit Raya? Well I have changed to new notes of RM10, RM5 and RM1. RM10 for the nephews and nieces, RM5 for grandchildren (nephews and nieces kids ok) and RM2 for other children. Of course, my kids will get RM100 each from me. I remember I was so excited when my uncles and aunties gave me 50 sen. Nenek will give us RM1. Those were the days. Now kids would say " Alah seringgit aje?" Adui sakit telinga dengarnya. My kids would get at least RM300~RM400 in total collection every Raya. Now they are thinking about buying new hand phones or other electronic gadgets. Last time it was "Simpan duit tu nanti boleh beli kasut sekolah or baju sekolah". I remember my mom reminded us so. Those were the days.
Well so much for that, I guess Life has to go on. Things have changed, we changes, Kids grew up fast, life style also changes. But the memory remains.
To all my silent readers :
Semoga Allah menerima puasa kita dan menjadikan kita kembali dalam keadaan suci dan termasuk orang-orang yang mendapat kemenangan.
Salam Aidil Fitri
Maaf Zahir & Batin
Azam & Kiky
Aizuddin, Aizat, Adib & Mahani Maimunah (Mimi)
Monday, October 8, 2007
Her Mak told me that Mimi's dream came through. Why? It's because Datuk Faridah Merican, the Director asked if anybody else want to accompany the actress on stage while they relate their life history. Obviously Mimi was the one who volunteered to be on stage with her mom. I guess she want to be in the limelight with her mom too. Orang kata "nak enter frame lah tu" hehehe..
Mimi as I know her is not the timid or shy type of girl.She would volunteer to do something that her 3 brothers do want to do. I remember when she was about 6 years old, she volunteered to go on stage with a clown at the opening of Tesco Damansara Perdana. The 3 brothers only stood by down stage. She would also play the musical chair or other games at any birthday parties, whilst her brothers shied themselves away.
Now that she got her way of getting on stage with her mom, I guess she had gotten what she want. Although her part was only to stand besides her mom on stage.
Another thing that Ky told me was this. Datuk Faridah Merican was asking her actress and actors if any of them could sing on stage. Mimi silently pointed Ky to Faridah (saying that her mom could sing). Hah ... thus now Ky got to sing as well now. Thus now Ky got to sing a song. She might sing "You raise me up" by Josh Groban.
Now we see how it goes. I might be attending the grand opening on the 11 October together with my sister-in-law. So if you guys think it worthwhile to go, please join me there. It's at Actors Studio, Bangsar Shopping Complex.
and Remember the last posting about 4 people resigned. A couple of weeks after that another Tsunami evades our division. 3 more people resigned. Nellie, Badrul and Amin found their exit to elsewhere. That make 8 people plus our Division head who resigned much earlier. Well there are many personal reasons why they left.
So now the new advisor had revamped the whole organisation and our MD had a meeting with us informing the new structure. Now there will me more people coming in either externally or internal recruitment.
Well for me, I wouldn't want to crack my head over this issue. Life has to go on irregardless of whatever circumstances. Getting new bosses and new colleague is no issue for me.
So now I'm waiting for the new people to come in. Hopefully we can work together as a team.
Monday, October 1, 2007
Well let me story you! A couple of weeks ago, some staff from Hospis Malaysia came to visit my wife, Ky. As you know Ky is a cancer patient and Hospis came over to help things out with her. Ky's liver already got affected by it recently. Thus Hospis's doctor and nurse came to see her and prescribe some medication for her.
On their second visit, the Hospis ladies came with some video and camera man to take pictures of her. Ky told me that they want to get her to act into some theater kind of things - for a charity cause. She asked me whether she can join the theater. Without hesitation I said yes! If it's for a good cause and if you are well and fit, by all mean do it. Why not? I jokingly said that well, now you can become an actress hehheee..
So for the last 2 Saturdays, she went to Actors Studio in Bangsar Shopping Complex. The first Saturday for audition - which she got it. She came back with some posters and postcard size promo for this act.
Anyway the play will depicts some life history of cancer survivors. I would consider Ky a surviving cancer person. As this is a charity work directed by Datuk Faridah Merican, I guess it must be good. I haven't seen it myself.
So do come and see these surviving cancer people relating their life.
My world at home was just the bedroom, the living cum TV room and the bathroom. Well that's not interesting isn't it. The activities were no more than lying down on bed, sofa or on the carpet watching numerous TV programmes that I didn't know it existed before this. I begin to like watching Martha Steward programme. So was the Indonesian series Taqwa. When you keep watch the series, you tend to get glued to the TV and would want to know what will happen next. I was more in competition the last 2 weeks with my kids on who to see what programme. Of course lah the ailing sick father will win. They ended up watching TV in Bibik's room.
Thanks to all my friends who had sent me messages and wishing me well.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Well for your information, I had just went thru' a minor operation recently and to be exact was Monday 17 September 2007. I'm now recovering slowly. The operation was just an hour but the recovering part might takes a couples of weeks or so.
Probably you were also wondering what kind of surgery? Ehmm... malu nak cakap. It's something that happen to men mostly over 40 and the probability of men getting it is about 50% ( I read it somewhere). It's something that not many people would discuss it openly. But don't get your imagination runs wild ok. But more importantly is that I'm recovering slowly but surely.
I will post later the details of my experience being operated. But for now let's keep cool dude. Just pray that I recover fast.
Thursday, September 13, 2007
If you are wondering who is Ezzah, she is the Ezzah Aziz Fawzy who is the TV3 ex-newscaster cum personality. I guess she is now the producer of Wanita Hari Ini and maybe a few more other productions. Anyway Ky was her schoolmate when they were in SIGS JB many many years ago. They were in the same hostel and school marching band together.
Anyway many topics were touched. From the kids, our jobs, our well being, our old friends, etc. etc. Of course some of the things we talked were personal things that I should not reveal here hehehee.. Gossip celebrities lah tu!
By 10.30pm, they excuse themselves to leave. It was good to meet up old buddies and catch up with old time. Anyway we promised to visit them if we are somewhere in their area. Thanks Ezzah and Rezal for visiting us.
See while writing this blog, another 2 friends text me wishing me selamat menyambut ramadan. Thanks to them.
While I supposed time has changed. I remember we only wish and greeted each other when Hari Raya's coming or any Festivals or New Year. Of recent years, probably we are more exposed to the Fadilat Bulan Ramadan, we now started to greet and wish each other to observe the month of Ramadan.
In fact the Fadilat of doing good deeds during the month of Ramadan is much more compared to the normal month. People are more concern doing good deed this month. The surau and masjids are filled up with jemaah to full brim almost every night.
I once commented to my friend casually about our office surau will be packed during Puasa month. We have to queue up to get space for us to prayer. My first thought was that it's gave me difficulties. That was my perspective then. But my friend told me differently.
He said "Nasib baik surau penuh. At least more people are coming to pray. What if the surau is empty and no one come to pray?" Ah! it smacked me right in my face. He is right. What if no one come to fill up the surau even if it is Ramadan. So now I have different perspective on seeing more people coming to the surau. At least I will meet people whom I seldom see them in the surau too (bukan lah nak mengata hehehee but it's a fact). I guess at least they too want to have more pahala this month. Why not?
So to my readers, allow me to wish you Selamat Menyambut Ramadan & bersama-sama lah kita menghayati Fadilat Ramadan yang penuh Rahmat dan semoga Allah dapat menerima segala amal ibadah kita ini. Insyaallah....
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
During lunch time between 1.00 ~ 1.45 pm, I seldom go out for lunch. Thus these are the times that I blog too.
Our office hour is from 8.00 am till 5.30 pm. So if I were to stay back late after 5.30 pm, I do take sometimes to blog as well.
At home, if the kids and their mom is not on the computer, then I'll blog too if I'm not doing other errants.
That's time management. So that's it. If you too were wondering, where I got the time to blog : "hey, we got 24 hours per day right. Use them as you wish as long as you don't disturb other people." There was quote I read somewhere : Everybody has 24 hours a day. The difference that make a person successful or not, is the way he manages his time." So I managing it well hahahhaa....
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
11 RULES FROM BILL GATES (for your children - & yourself!)
To anyone with kids of any age, or any kid for that matter, here's some advice. Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not & will not learn in school. He talks about how feel good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality & how this concept set them up for failure in the real world. Love him or hate him, he sure hit the nail on the head with this.
Life is not fair - get used to it.
The world won't care about your self esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
You will not make $60,000 a year right out of high school You won't be a vice president with a car phone until you earn both.
If you think your teacher is tough, wait until you get a boss.
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping - they called it opportunity.
If you mess up, it's not your parents fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes & listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites your parent's generation created, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Your school may have done away with winners & losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades & they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This does not bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off & very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
TV is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop & go to jobs.
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
Now you might ponder ... is life fair for you??
Monday, September 10, 2007
I regard her as one of the best employee in the export division. She being a good friend, jovial gal, easy going, friendly and of course intelligent and sometimes witty. Not forgetting that she bakes great muffins.
She was packing her stuff in the office and found this book "How Full Is Your Bucket". Automatically she thought of me and gladly gave the book to me. She told since I had lent him another book earlier " The parable of the pipeline" which of similar concept, she thought I was the best person to be given this book. How thoughtful of her. I will cherish this Mas.
As for memory sake, I asked her to autograph it for me.
To my dearest pipeline friend
Well Mas, I wish you all the luck. Let's keep in touch ok. We'll miss your muffins though.
Friday, September 7, 2007
Because of some irresponsible individual who leak the exam questions, now many pupils will be in trouble. Imagine that your kids have put all his brains out preparing for the exams and now drained out ... suddenly he has to take it again. I'm talking about those innocent kids who don't even heard or saw the "leaked questions'.
I hope that some investigation is being done by the police and put the culprits behind bars. I know some years ago the same thing happened and the culprits were reprimanded by the police. Hope the same action will be taken upon these culprits.
As for Acik, Wednesday was his last exam day. Acik is now free as a bird. If not, both his mom and me would hammer him not to watch the TV lah, don't go out for games lah, sleep early lah.. and so on and so forth. Now he is free. He even got time to join in with other kids for a patriotic singing competition in school.
Anyway I hope he gets straight A's. Insyaallah!
I read the message twice just to confirm was it him or his father. But for sure that it was him. Millions of question came into my mind. Why, how or where? The why is more prominent question but still there's not much answer to it.
So when I came into the office everyone were talking about him - being such an active guy who plays takraw and volleyball and at his age of mid-thirties, I still can't believe that he is gone to meet the creator. We were informed that he died in his sleep.
I had known him for many years now. When I was in Corporate Planning, I dealt a lot with him, who use to work in the R&D. He would once a while come to my office to get information for us or I would summon him for R&D reports. Sometimes he would just dropped by for a chit chat when I'm free.
The last time I remember dealing with him on the unpaid invoices to the service provider - who got to pay what! But we managed to sort it out. Later I met with him again in his office while I was on my way to a meeting.
Reminiscing back, actually I hard time remembering his name. When I first know him through the phone, I mispronounced his name. From Mazariwan to Marizawan. Or I sometimes I called him Maraziwan. Such a peculiar and hard name to pronounce. A tongue twister name. It took me quite a while to pronounce his name right.
Mazariwan that I know is a kind person and always respect me as an elder. He is somebody that you would want to have fond memory of, someone who you can easily to deal with, someone who would always put up a smile when you bum into him.
Probably that is why the creator takes him. As I have heard before "Allah will take the good guys first". (Not that we are the bad guys who are still alive?)
Al Fatihah Mazariwan. May Allah place you amongst the place of the faithful good soul. Amin.
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Now these 4 people had submitted their resignation earlier and probably be out before the Hari Raya holidays - minus their annual leaves. It's kind of Tsunami as someone have put it especially 5 people resigning in the last 2 months.
So before the fasting month begins next week, we organised a simple but meaningful farewell for these brats.
Pak Hamdan aka the Boss gave a meaningful but sinister
speech ahahaha... So who else want to resign?...
Pizza Hut Pizza to go...
These guys never want to reveal where they are going. What the heck. ... they are going out anyway. But we'll miss the fun of being together as a team.
The people who seek greener pasture ..... is it?
Azlee a.k.a. the "road less travel"..
Marcus .. eh baru 2 tahun kerja dah resign.. pehal lak
Marsitah ... we'll miss your muffins Mas..
Firdaus .. our Iran CKD specialist.. abis lah Iran Project
So who is next to resign ha! Nellie & Badrul camne!
So guys we wish you luck and best of your future endeavour. But if you know a better position there, just let us know ok guys.
Monday, September 3, 2007
Yes we had been warned to exercise a bit and take lots of Double X supplement before we go. In fact this is a challenge for people who could move Double X - one of Nutrilite best supplement.
There's lots of fun and excitement plus lots of scary obstacles we had to go thru' out the whole day.
Ayu & Tahir got a ride with me as I was driving alone there. To me, they might as well get a ride from me instead of them driving alone too. We shoot off from my place about 7.45am and arrived at the Camp about an hour later.
The out of towners were already there and some of them came as early as 3 am by bus from Singapore and Penang. After registration, there were briefings and grouping of teams. Most of my team members are my downlines.
We started by warming up first and that's fine with me. Randy was out facilitator as he has gone through all the games / obstacles before.
The whole program were divided into 3 bands and each band consist of 4~5 obstacles/games. We were given 18 minutes for each games to complete and 20 points will be deducted for each participant not completing each obstacle.
Warming up session - while we still have energy.
We started off by briefing by the chief coordinator, Fathiah. We were divided into teams and we were group in Team C, which we later named it as "Team Cheetah" - the strong animal on the prowl. Later there was a warming up session headed by Zainal & Bridgette from Singapore.
The First Band - River Crossing, Vietnam Bridge & Blind fold
The first obstacle was cross the river. We were given safety jacket each - just in case we submerge in the water. Of course we have to put our strategy in place so that everybody can completed each mission within the 18 minutes.
River Crossing - it was a jiffy if you know how to do it.
The Vietnam Bridge crossing looks easy until you get onto rope. Got to balance yourself or else you'll be down in the river. Another strategy have to be put in place.
The balancing act on the Vietnam Bridge.
Silap hari bulan jambatan senget tau.
Another one was the Blind folded game. Each of us were blind folded with only the team leader giving the instruction. Thus you have to reach out to the person in front of you and not letting him go or else ....
The Blind folded crawl. So we have to hold the next person's leg.
Susah sikit sebab tak nampak apa-apa pun.
After we completed the first band, we were thrilled. We still have some energy left. But gosh there are two more bands to go. We break for shower first since the we have completed the first band but the team ahead of us had not completed theirs.
Yeah! We can do it man!
Tapi masa buat tu mengelabah jugak!
The Second Band - Repelling, Abseiling, Flying Fox, Climbing & Commando Crawl and Spider Web.
I think the most challenging part is the climbing the Container and the Commando Crawl.As our team consist of women and men, in different sizes and weight, the challenge is who is going to push who to the top. To be on the safe side, I already warned the ladies that we have to push their butts up and got to pull them on top of the container so that it's easier for them. Well who cares whose butts you got to push when you want to completed the obstacle in time right!
The climbing up is not so bad.. but the
coming down.. aduih susah nyer!
The Commando Crawl. Yang ni senang sikit.
This Spider Web obstacle is a bit unique to me. We were given a number of holes to get thru'. Some big holes but most of them are small. Thus we have to strategies who to go thru' first and also which holes they should go thru'. Tapi ada lak yang nak memilih lubang mana nak pergi. Of course me being the most senior guy would shout: " Woi cepat lah. Jangan nak memilih lak." So cepat lah sikit cause I want them to decide fast.
Stratergising what to do and who to go first in
the Spider Web obstacle.
The Flying Fox was a jiffy but the challenge is to climb the three story tower. After the many obstacles we have done...aduih.. now our muscles are aching already.
The Flying Fox - best nyer!
The Abseiling and Repelling was ok with me. The instructor taught us the method of lowering ourself down. So no big deal for me .. cewah!
The Abseiling - it's a jiffy if you get used to it....cewah!
The Third Band - Telematches : Gunny sack run, Brick Walk, Seek Candy in Flour, Four Legged Run, Ball Throwing & Paperdoll
This is the fun part too. The telematches were more hilarious than the obstacle races. The funniest part was the Paperdoll. Faisal who were
The four-legged run. You have to tie your legs
to each other and one string than runs thru' your
T-shirts. What a fun?
The Paper Doll games - Faisal became Fathiah !!!!
Oops your boob falls!
Miss Universe drag pagents. So who you would
The telematches were the last band. We were then grouped again for the last briefing of the day. After all the deliberations and fire fighters (Bomba) were ready to shoot water on us.
After a long hot day and now getting drained out of energy, a cool shower from the fire fighter was a relief.
The Bomba cooling us down after all the games.
We were all wet but it's nice to be cool after a long hot sessions.
The program was almost complete by 6.00pm. We were drenched wet and it's time for a proper shower and Asar prayers. The barbecue and camp fire starts at 7.00pm.
At the camp fire prizes were given to the winners for each band and the overall winners. Well our team didn't win any but I was glad that I join this camp. What more important is what we have learn from the things we did : the team work, leadership skill, overcoming your fears, and have fun along the way.
We left Pantai Remis about 9.00pm and reach home by 10.00pm. By then I was damn tired and my muscles are already aching. Ouch sakit lah badan!
You know lah, Adib is the most mischievous boy amongst my three sons. Being the youngest boy, he is the also the most playful and make fun of anything. He is closest to my darling youngest daugther, Mimi. Selalu gaduh-gaduh. Lepas tu main main and baik semula. Then you will hear them laughing like anything.
Amongst my boys, he is also the most active in sport. He was selected to be the Pengawas when he was in Standard 6. But being too active in sport has it's own disadvantages. At one time, immediately after coming back from the inter-district volleyball tournament he sat for an exam. Of course the worst had happen. Absent for many classes in the two weeks, he got last in class. The teacher punished him by re-assigned him from 6A to 6C. Both his Mak & I got furious and gave him lots and lots of bombardments.
Luckily after all the bombardment almost every other day, so in the next trial exam his result was better off and he got some A's and thus he was returned to his 6A. Lucky you Acik.
After all the words of encouragement from both of us, it's time for him to perform his part. His Uncle Ad had already promise to give him RM100 for every A he gets. His Anjang will give RM20 for every A. But his mom said, he will get the money if gets A's only and if he didn't the A's the money will be deducted.
Anyway .. Good luck my little Hero!
Thursday, August 30, 2007
But life has to go on irregardless of whatever situation. I pray the best for him and his endeavour. You'll never know. Maybe it's for his betterment to seek other opportunity elsewhere. Well with all his predicament of not having much money at before the end of the every month, I'm sure the pay there will benefits him a lot. Well I always believe that there is always a hikmah for anything to happen.
Of course I have already scrambled with HRD to get a replacement as soon as possible. The best way I thought is to make an internal recruitment. If I have my choice, it would be easier for me train the new guy as he would have know about our internal system and also people who are dealing with us. But the Recruitment guy from HR already warned me that to get other people from other departments would sometimes be difficult because their bosses won't allow them to leave.
Thus that recruitment guy suggested that I look some CVs of people who are interested to work in our company. Well there's always a pro and cons to everything right. But since time is running out for me, I told him that I will look at their CVs anyway.
So this afternoon when I came back from a meeting, I saw an enveloped that contain these CVs. And when I studied the CVs I found that these guys have the background and experience that are relevant.
Next step is to inform the HR people to call them for interview. You know lah the HRD people might take sometimes to get these candidate for interview and takes years for them to recruit these people in. I hope I can get the right person to take over what my good friend cum assistant cum McGuyver cum teh tarik partner's job. Probably I let him join me to interview these new candidates too.
So well see the outsome.